Inspiring trust and safety
The primary role of a Dominant is to ensure a submissive’s physical and emotional safety. Not only during a session, but during the whole relationship. A submissive must feel safe enough to give over full control over her body and mind to the Master/Dom. A person who makes her fearful, nervous, threatened or pressured cannot achieve the primary requirement of a Dominant to inspire her sense of safety & trust, which triggers the willingness top submit. By definition, a submissive is a person of free will who, of her own volition, chooses to give over control of her body, mind and soul to a Dominant to be trained. She needs to understand that she is putting her entire physical and emotional safety into the hands of a Dom so this decision requires much more trust than any vanilla sex partner she have ever had. The key point being a submissive chooses her own Dom, not the other way around.
That is not to say play with a Dom cannot be wild, rough and edgy because a Master/Dom can also like the play a little rough and primal – hand on the throat, hair pulling, pinned up against a wall. But the difference is both the Dom and the sub have established a foundation of trust and established limits of this rough play based on that trust with the Dom as opposed to a complete stranger she is meeting for the very first time in person who makes her feel edgy.
If any man claiming to be a “Dom” makes any submissive feel nervous, fearful, pressured or on edge, that submissive should calmly excuse herself to use the washroom and then make a direct line to the nearest exit and never look back. The voice she is hearing inside her head is millions of years of evolutionary instincts trying to keep her safe, and she should ALWAYS listen to that voiced.
